I was also, however, very burdened at how there was NOTHING out there for the men in our lives that are going through this, no less then us, but in a very different way. Sure there is a book here and there, and an occasional forum or brochure, but nothing that can really be a support and aid to them in this, likely, new experience. As anyone reading this blog knows, men and women do grief in very different ways. I often say that grief is no less personal and unique then a fingerprint is. Every person grieves differently as well. But I am sad to see little out there for these guys. Marriages take a real blow to the gut when a child dies. Regardless of the circumstances that led up to that horrible day. Marriages struggle, they hurt, they teeter, and all too often, they fail.
Now if you asked my husband 'was your son's death the cause', he would tell you no. Much rotting occurred before that unpredicted day. But it was indeed, the final event that gave way to it's collapse! Details are irrelevant. God has seen all. He has been there through it all. (Thank you Jesus!) A marriage can't happen with only 1 person fighting for it!!!!!!
I am speaking to all of you reading this right now. Whether you know loss, or do not. Whether there is break down or there is none. One thing is sure: There is a certain roaring lion prowling around looking for someone to devour. -1 Peter 5:8
Satan has come to steal, kill, and destroy. -John 10:10 Don't let him destroy your marriage. That is the very relationship that God intended for us to reflect His love for us! SELFLESS, CARING, FORGIVING, WITHOUT PRIDE, OVERFLOWING, CONSISTENT, SUPPORTIVE, TENDER, MERCIFUL, GENEROUS,PASSIONATE, STRONG, INTIMATE, BEAUTIFUL, (did I mention SELFLESS?).-1 Cor. 13:4-8
Your baby is gone....FOR A TIME! Gone from our arms here, and placed in perfect ones, THERE!
Marriage takes work. It takes admitting you need guidance, direction, accountability, and help to make it all it CAN be. Fight the good fight (with the enemy) and press on toward the goal! Think of the crown you will get to cast at Jesus' feet one day, upon which is engraved: